I was recently asked this, along with Does the term offend you?
First off, why would I be offended by being compared to a magical being that remains a mystery and inspires dreams? Yes I know some people use it in derogatory way, that doesn’t mean I have to agree with their interpretation.
Getting back to if I am that mystical creature. Yes and no. It really depends on the setting.
When I am with my swinger couple or when I am in that general setting, yes I view myself as a unicorn. Why? Because the relationship is based on fantasy and it is ever fleeting. When I am “playing” with a couple it is simply to fulfill a sexual desire, on both sides. One of my greatest turn-ons is being with a couple and watching him cum inside her. I cannot explain the feeling I get during that moment. In that setting I simply enjoy their friendship and the moment, we do not develop deep emotional bonds.
When I am dating someone, single or not, I do not view myself as a Unicorn. Why? Because our interaction is more than sexual desire. If I choose to date someone, I want that connection,a bond, that tingly feeling when I see or think of them. It is more than a mere fantasy fullfilled.
If I am dating a couple, that simply means I have developed emotional bonds with both. My current couple I am romantically drawn to him, with her we are simply fast friends.
Everyone has their own interpretation of a Unicorn. Everyone has their right to their opinion. I embrace being that mythical creature and I embrace being single in a poly relationship. I love having siffrrent dynamics with differebt people.
Everyone should embrace their journey to which we call life.
Don’t wait for the perfect moment, take the moment and make it perfect!